More Potty Talk

My daughter attends a small, in-home daycare. The woman who runs it, and her husband, are like a 3rd set of grandparents for her. But, even our daycare provider admits that, as my daughter approaches three years old, she will need a pre-school-like environment to help her learn and grow.

Well, the other day, we went to visit one. We had visited before, briefly, on the advice of our daycare provider. This was a more formal visit.

We really like the program: there are more kids there, at a variety of ages, the primary daycare provider (teacher?) is very nice, and extremely qualified, and, just as important, our daughter enjoyed her visit.

“Would you like to go to that school someday?” we asked her. Her responses have been enthusiastic and consistent — “Yes,” she tells us.

And the other child at her current daycare – a boy around her age whom she adores, and who adores her (“He’s my best friend!” she told us the other day) – will be go there, too.

So, we are asking our questions of the main provider, and I ask, “What about the potty situation?”

The unsatisfyingly obvious answer and more after the jump…

Seems they prefer – it isn’t necessarily a deal breaker, but they really really seem to prefer it – children who are potty-trained.

Well, this gives us 5-6 months to really start working harder at potty training. We try to put our daughter on the potty (she uses the “big potty”), at least 2-3 times a day. I know, we should be doing more. When we do put here on the potty, she usually goes. Almost always, uh, Number One. Occasionally, Number Two.

We use stickers as incentive. One or two of them, depending on what she does. This seems to encourage her. If she does a Number Two (okay, fine, I will use the word “poop(y)”), we also do “the poopy dance” with her. She loves to do the poopy dance.

So, she will poop on the toilet. However…

My daughter is at the age where she will tell the truth. “Stupid,” she will say. “What did you just say??” I ask her, my voice showing my displeasure. She won’t lie. “Stupid,” she will reply meekly.

That being said, there is one question she will always lie in response to — “Are you going poopy?”

So, it isn’t like we aren’t trying to get her trained to tell us when she needs to go. We just aren’t trying hard enough.

Now, we have to make the push (no pun intended). We’ve heard the various methods – put her on the potty more often, put her in underwear (“I want Little Mermaid underwear!” she’ll tell us) and let her see the consequences of not going, etc, etc. We haven’t made up our minds which way to go yet.

There is some encouraging news, however. As we were discussing this with the primary daycare provider, our daughter came up to us and said, “I wanna go potty!” There may be hope afterall.

3 Responses to More Potty Talk

  1. EB says:

    This is something that probably half of the parents sending their three year-olds to preschool have to contend with. Our son went to a preschool that REQUIRED potty training. On the day he went to school, he probably wasn’t as far along as your daughter. We were scared until we found out that a bunch of the other parents were also holding their breath.

    What we discovered was that the habit of school and the socialization of the bathroom behaviors took their course in the first few weeks of school and helped to pretty much result in all of the kids completing their potty training.

    Trust me, your daughter is doing great, is going to be fine. Keep practicing, but there’s no reason to hesitate in making your preschool plans.

  2. Oh, and here’s a funny potty story from the blog archives about our son’s first couple weeks at preschool.

  3. KC says:

    The preschool my girl went to charged more for untrained kids, but they didn’t ban them. I wonder if they’re rethought that policy. My boy wiill start there in a year at the latest, and I doubt he’ll be ready to go diaperless.

    “That being said, there is one question she will always lie in response to — “Are you going poopy?” ”

    I’m there. My girl used to fib or otherwise stall until it was too late, and there would be an accident. We learned to watch for the signs and then turn off TV or end whatever was more important to her than pottying, and she’d be off, mad at us, but then she’d do her business and come back.

    Now, speaking of _needing_ to be potty trained, surely anybody who sends their kid to gymnastics ought to be sure their kid isn’t having any issues — and they certainly should make the kid potty before class. A little girl (poor thing!) peed all over the equipment a few weeks ago where my girl has a weekly class. It was no small project for the staff to clean it up.

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